And my kids are at a good age at the moment. We can have conversations. Of course, some of those conversations I was not ready to have just yet.
But we go out and have adventures. We go to parks, fairs, museums.
So aside from cleaning (which is more difficult with young kids), I think that this birthday party thing is really stressful for me. I think I'm going to give myself permission to put it on hiatus for the next few years.
We just had a birthday party for my kids. It went well. Expectations were properly set ahead of time - I was prepared (we didn't have a swim party because of the weather AND because it would be too difficult to coordinate). This is the
I have no idea why birthday parties in particular are stressful for me. I love having my friends over for parties - we host them regularly.
I suppose it's that I keep going to other children's birthday parties and thinking "I could do this - this wouldn't be too stressful". And yet - in the end, it ends up being stressful for me. And I'm not even making a cake from scratch or homemade party favors.
So this is my confession - I think I need to let this one go. My kids will be just fine if they only have a few more birthdays or birthday parties with friends. We still celebrate the birthdays with family - I even sent treats with them to school. I know it means a lot to them (which is why they are insistent).
But my time and mental energy are also important. And it can't be useful to have a mom who is stressed out - living up to other people's expectations. It's another case of - it's a good idea in theory, but in practice it doesn't work as well. I'm giving myself permission to say no to this one.