I talk a lot (here) about relationships, mental health and boundaries - because I think a lot about those things. I don't feel a need to put on a false front here; to pretend that life is more rosy than it is. Life has not always been easy for me or for those I love. I don't have to impress anyone, or I don't mean to impress anyone with what I write here.
I don't really talk a lot about how good life is at the moment. And even at the lowest points over the past few years, there are/have been parts of life that are very, very sweet.
But life at the moment is pretty good. I feel better and more grounded that I have in a long time. It's not that I don't have challenges, I do. But the more I figure out what I can control, and what I can't, the better off I have been. And I've been more independent than I have been in a long time as well. Being more independent was a goal of mine, so I have been setting (and meeting) my goals.
I'll give an example. One of the drains in our basement was backed up, again. So we called the plumber to clear it out. Our home is around 60 years old, so this is par for the course. I realized that I hate paying repair people and plumbers in particular.
I've joked for a long time that I'm in the wrong career, that I should have gone into plumbing (it would be more lucrative).
And I realized this morning, as I was paying for the plumber to come out for the second time in three months, I could take a home plumbing repair course. I'm sure they're out there.
I don't have to get upset or caught up in how much I'm paying for other people to repair my house. I can work to learn how to do it myself.
There are things I need to put up with, to accept - and there are things I can change.
The notion is quite freeing.