I'm not sure where I read this recently, but it resonated with me. Someone said "If you're not sure what to do, do nothing". I think it's a Buddhist teaching.
This wisdom is particularly apt for me; someone who likes to plan and has been known to be over-committed. I do still believe inaction is an action, but taking a step back from whatever it is helps. With time, the forest becomes clearer through the trees.
I think I always felt I had to have the last word, the upper hand, to not leave people with the wrong impression.
It may have to do with the way I was raised (see a typical mormon hymn here).
It's nice to think that I can sit back and think about what I'm doing and what my motives are. And I don't have to respond.