As an engineer of sorts from a family of engineers...we like to fix things. We want to find a solution.
We want things to work logically and rationally. We want people to act logically and rationally. We want nature to follow patterns.
But life doesn't work that way.
My in laws currently have three to five inches of water in their normally dry basement. The water has been coming up through their drains since last week.
There is absolutely nothing I (or anyone else) can do about it.
I keep wanting to come up with solutions. To find out more about the water table in their area. To find out how much longer the water will keep coming in.
But I just have to accept that there is absolutely nothing I can do about this situation. My in laws have it under control. They don't need my help (or won't accept it). There is nothing they can do about this situation either. They keep reminding me, so many people have lost so much more.
I don't deal well (obviously, see here and here ) with this type of helplessness. And yet, so much of life is totally out of our control.
I guess in this particular situation, you would think it would be easier to accept what I cannot change and move on.