There was a time when it was not considered polite to discuss fertility medications or that a couple was trying to conceive.
And there are times that I agree with that.
On the other hand, as a society we have become much more open. From my understanding of some of these treatments and therapies, they can be very draining emotionally and difficult. They can be very expensive. So it makes sense (to me) that one's friends and families be able to support a couple going through this process.
I found out last week that I have two sets of friends who are going the fertility med route. And there is a part of me that wishes for them, I hope you have twins.
I know it sounds crazy. I can't believe I'm saying it either. Twin pregnancies are automatically high risk. Lots of things can go wrong with a singleton pregnancy - so two are twice the risk.
Many moms of twins have to go on bed rest. Almost 50% of twins are born prematurely, and may have to spend time in the NICU.
And I also remember, exhausted a few days after my twins were born, asking my Mom - how do people do this? And also thinking that I would never wish twins (the work associated with twins) on anyone.
But I've slept since then.
I just know both couples will be fabulous parents. If they are able to have children, they will love and cherish them. It's not fair that some people are able to have children who shouldn't be parents - and others' who would be great parents are not able to be.