Wry Catcher was wondering about regrets. Unfortunately, I did not read the famous dooce post (or the comments).
Like most things, I have mixed feelings on regrets in general.
I understand why people have them. I have a handful of regrets myself (not majoring in computer science at a state school is one of them). If I start really thinking about it, I suppose I have lots of them.
On the other hand, I've made lots of choices in my life. Some of them were blue shirt or green shirt choices, others were much more complicated. It's not possible to do everything you want to do. Some things are logistically impossible. Other things are not possible because we live in the world we do with things like rent, car payments, careers and relatives.
In my own case, I wouldn't have met my husband or a handful of my good friends if I had gone to a state school. I might not have spent three and a half months in Russia. I might have been driven crazy by programmers and ended up teaching kindergarten (unlikely but possible).
So my philosophy is, I try to do the best I can. I try to let the people I care about know that I care about them.
I would go nuts if I really started thinking about my potential, what I wanted to do when I was 10 (I wanted to be president or an astronaut) or the things I probably won't end up doing before I die. I would also go nuts if I started thinking of all the things I would like to tell people in my life, some living, some no longer living.
Some days it's easier to accept than others. I guess I like focusing on the things that I chose to do and why.
My husband likes to say "the past is the past". I think that is an encouragement to live in the moment. It's easier said than done.
*he also says that time is a mind control device invented by the Swiss, hence the title of this post.