I don't miss a great deal about being married. Is that heresy?
It seems like there is a lot of societal pressure to get married, to stay married, to be part of a couple (particularly for women).
These are some of the things I miss.
-Seeing my kids every day
It's not really part of marriage, but because their dad and I lived in the same home, I saw my kids every day. Now that's not the reality.
-Changing light bulbs
As someone who is relatively short, it was nice to have someone taller around to be able to reach the light fixtures.
-Being able to easily drop my car off for service
It's a lot less complicated when you have two adult drivers. I can drop my car off now, it's simply takes more effort and coordination.
-Comparing notes about my day
When you live with someone, it's nice to compare days and to support one another (daily). I have lots of friends but it's not the same as having someone physically there.
-Having someone who could attend work events, etc. with me
It's a bit awkward at typical couples' events to be there by myself. On the other hand, it's nice to only have to entertain myself, and not other people.
-Taking the babysitter home
It's a longer process to return home, pick up the kids and babysitter, take the babysitter home and then return home myself.
My former partner and I get along, so we're flexible when one of us is sick, needs to watch the kids, etc.
I know many divorced parents don't have that option.
Perhaps what's more strange is there isn't more that I miss. Like anything, marriage has its advantages and disadvantages.