A few years ago, in therapy, my therapist mentioned with a particular issue that I could take as much time as I needed to deal with an issue.
I think that is an incredible piece of wisdom.
To often in our culture, we have this need for immediate action or gratification. It's been criticized for years. We feel like if we don't make a decision - who knows what could happen. That we might go down the wrong path and have to backtrack.
Or even more frightening, with as short as life is, who knows if our loved ones will be around when we make up our minds.
These are difficult questions. But in my experience, answers eventually come. As we stew over what's going on, after having slept on the questions - it makes it easier to reason what decision we will make. Some of this may involve outside research, feedback from friends. And we may change our minds.
But with loss, depression, alcoholism - or with a host of other issues - why should we have to come to a conclusion immediately? Eventually, yes, it is important to address things and move on - but does it have to be done right now?
A former boss gave the advice that it was important that a company was at least moving in the right direction. And I think as long as any of us are at least moving in the right direction (at least the right direction for us) - that's what is critical.