tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post2180069650150776765..comments2023-10-24T03:33:55.572-07:00Comments on Aerin's Cranberry Blog: Not the worst thing in the worldAerinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11142518259771067132noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post-69746954661378197182007-04-17T09:03:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:03:00.000-07:00Thanks chanson. I appreciated the link to that di...Thanks chanson. I appreciated the link to that discussion (very interesting blog, btw). I feel it's important to speak up when I hear that "staying together for the kids is always the best policy" argument. <BR/><BR/>FFG - thanks!<BR/><BR/>AZ awakening - Welcome! I think what's important, just as you noted, is the individual couple and what's best for each person. I didn't mention in my post, but it sadly seems that many couples where one person leaves the mormon church divorce. I hate to think that divorce is that automatic - but again, I've heard many stories from faithful mormons about being pressured to leave non believing spouses. As always, family first, my a**. Family first but only if you're mormon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post-73093100467978967402007-04-15T16:52:00.000-07:002007-04-15T16:52:00.000-07:00Great points Aerin, there are many reasons for cou...Great points Aerin, there are many reasons for couples to divorce. Like you mentioned just sticking it out for the kids is wrong. I know my wife and I have had a lot of issues over the years and escpecially since I have gone apostate, but we love each other and divorce for us is not an option. Then it again that is us using our agency.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post-5535254257936916452007-04-13T16:16:00.000-07:002007-04-13T16:16:00.000-07:00I read that article, but did not get a chance to p...I read that article, but did not get a chance to post my comments or read comments yet. Thanks for reminding me. I completely agree that sticking together for the sake of the kids is NOT always the answer. <BR/><BR/>I spent my life wishing my parents would divorce. They didn't hate each other or anything, but I felt they didn't match. It didn't happen until I had graduated from college.Freckle Face Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13324960438835000817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post-54347906135785536152007-04-12T07:00:00.000-07:002007-04-12T07:00:00.000-07:00Interestingly, there have been some posts popping ...Interestingly, there have been some posts popping up about this same topic in the Bloggernacle since apparently there was a conference talk about divorce. One I particularly liked was <A HREF="http://zelophehadsdaughters.com/2007/04/09/thinking-about-divorce/" REL="nofollow">this one by Ziff</A>. Ziff makes the point that even though studies show that kids whose parents stay together do better in the long run than kids whose parents divorce, that doesn't necessarily mean that every couple with kids should stay together no matter what -- it might be that the in the families where the parents stuck it out, the marriages weren't as bad overall as the ones that finally divorced.<BR/><BR/>I also like your example about the guy whose parents repeatedly told him they were staying together for his sake. What if you and your spouse hate each other and are staying together only because of your kids -- what do you tell them? The truth or a lie? In this case, it seems like either choice would be harmful to them in the long run.C. L. Hansonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12698855413639518095noreply@blogger.com