tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post1364709958450956603..comments2023-10-24T03:33:55.572-07:00Comments on Aerin's Cranberry Blog: To not do for other adults what they can do for themselvesAerinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11142518259771067132noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post-48284511950760261852009-01-15T06:25:00.000-08:002009-01-15T06:25:00.000-08:00Ha! We have more in common than you would think (...Ha! We have more in common than you would think (I'm also the oldest. of six). I was not necessarily thinking in terms of my own siblings in this post - but it's true, I have to fight to not take the path of least resistence (in other words, me, doing stuff I don't need to do).Aerinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11142518259771067132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2738167594002469989.post-61518442363064844262009-01-14T11:04:00.000-08:002009-01-14T11:04:00.000-08:00I've been thinking a lot about this exact thing la...I've been thinking a lot about this exact thing lately, and I totally feel your pain.<BR/><BR/>I'm the oldest of six, and the daughter of two somewhat irresponsible and needy parents (though not AT ALL in a neglectful or abusive way, just to clarify). Somehow it came to be my job to teach my siblings manners, to help them with homework, to make sure they finished their dinner. I changed diapers, put them to bed, sat up with them when they were sick or fussy. Later I did the grocery shopping, carpooled to seminary, took them to stake dances and soccer practice...<BR/><BR/>And that is a hard thing to let go of, even when I want to.<BR/><BR/>Now that they're all adults, it's a mental, emotional, and even sometimes physical effort to keep from rushing in when they need/want help (and even when they don't).<BR/><BR/>I just have to keep remembering that whole "give a man a fish" thing.<BR/><BR/>(And keep remembering how much I love not being responsible for another human being. LOVE IT.)Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14473795923900926749noreply@blogger.com